As the month of love takes course and Valentine’s day draws closer, The Fatboy Show Presenter Olive Najjuma has voiced her opinion that only official couples should celebrate the day.
“This is my view on Valentine's day; it should be celebrated only by serious couples. If you and I are just hanging out and having a good time, I expect nothing from you on the day. But if we are official and you're my boyfriend or husband, I will do something for you and expect the same in return.”
However, James Onen, the show’s Co-host inquired from Olive on what makes a couple official, asking if they have to sit down, come up with terms and then sign an agreement.
Olive explained that it may not be a written document but the couple need to have a clear conversation on their relationship status and agree on whether they are willing to seal their bond as partners. Fatboy however argued that this might just destroy the relationship that was previously unproblematic without commitment.
“But you can't have things running smoothly without having certain important conversations. I can't see you for like 8 months and I still don’t know if I am officially your girlfriend. After 6 months, we are having this conversation,” Olive attested.
Fatboy then went on to say how some women are always on their best behavior but on request of making the relationship official, they suddenly change.
“This happens to many guys where they have been with a woman for like three months. She gives him frequent sex, understands him and lets him hangout with the boys to watch football. He then thinks that maybe making her his girlfriend isn’t such a bad idea. But guess what happens after that? She’s like- ‘Why are you always watching football?’ ‘Why do you always expect me to sleep with you? Am I a sex object?’ ‘If you love me, you’d give me money.’ All this while you’re wondering what happened to your angel,” he said.
On the contrary, Olive insisted that after spending several months together, it would only be natural to have the conversation to make the intentions of one another clear.
Still in disagreement, Fatboy went on to narrate, “I remember having an on-and-off situation with someone for about 8 years and we had never really tied each other down despite liking each other so much. At some point, there was a wind of opportunity where we both saw no one. I was like let's do this,” he recounted.
He continued, “We became a couple but thereafter everything changed. Tables turned and she became rare and busy, and started hanging out with other people often. By becoming her boyfriend, I realized that I was no longer the cool guy to hang with, now I was the nagging fool asking her where she was and what she was doing. Eventually, the relationship fell apart. We had been happy for years till we decided to be committed to one another.”
Olive noted that in the relationship Fatboy had, the thrill was in not being tied to each other which she said is the same in cases of infidelity whereby excitement is derived from the person one is cheating with. However, in the event that they break up with their main partner, the thrill they had with those they were cheating with also disappears.
Fatboy asked what the solution to this could then be. Olive responded, “Just be honest with yourselves from the start. Do you want a serious relationship at some point or not?”
The Fatboy show is hosted by James Onen aka Fatboy, Olive, Sarah and Lesham every weekday from 6am to 10am on RX Radio.