Most relationships today do not make it past the dating stage because of issues like lies, poor communication, unfaithfulness, unsatisfying intimacy, different values, and possessiveness most commonly associated with one’s insecurities.
These make one continuously ask about their position in the relationship, often distressing themselves and their partners with the same conversations every time.
According to Olive Najjuma, The Fatboy Show presenter on RX Radio, seeking to understand the position of the relationship at the beginning by setting boundaries and where the relationship has to be is important. However, if it is the conversation one of the partners wants to have every now and then it becomes draining.
“Imagine every time you meet your girlfriend and she says ‘let us talk about us,’ and the week later, she asks the same thing, that's draining,” she said.
“It gets so draining because you can talk about the relationship for hours and rest on nothing. But you come out drained. You start asking yourself why you are in the relationship” she added.
James Onen a co-host of the show opined that if one has to constantly ask about the status of the relationship, probably the couple did not have the same priorities during their first meeting.
“Probably you might have been brought together by circumstances, convenience or boredom and beyond that, there was nothing you liked or appreciated about the other person. Whenever you're together, you want to talk about the relationship.
Commenting on the subject, Kristi, a caller on the show explained that it's important for lovers to have similar priorities before getting into the relationship.
“I think this is important that the couple has the same mindset when getting into a relationship. Relationships are supposed to be enjoyed, it is about relating and such deep conversations will be stressful when both partners are not on the same mental wavelength,” she said.
The Fatboy show is hosted by James Onen aka Fatboy, Olive, and Sarah every weekday from 6 am to 10 am on RX Radio.