When most people think of marriage, they think about a partner that loves them, is attractive, financially stable, independent, and empathetic with a sense of humor.
Even as the qualities may differ from one person to another, defining the person one would have as a marriage partner can be tricky because the law of attraction sometimes supersedes these qualities. No wonder, a majority choose partners without the qualities they once held on to.
Discussing the question of the greatest definition of what the ideal marriage partner should be, Olive Najjuma, The Fatboy Show presenter, said a marriage partner should possess the three qualities.
“Your marriage partner should be your greatest physical, emotional and financial decision. You get it wrong on any of these, you are likely to suffer,” she said.
To her, one must consider the physical, emotional, and financial wellness of another. Also, be ready for any of the consequences that come with their decision.
“Unfortunately, love alone does not matter in a marriage. There are points in a marriage where there won’t be love, but some things have to be there. Once we have children, they won’t be fed, educated, or treated in hospital by words of affirmation or telling me that you love me so much,” she said.
Responding to how he could fill out the question of ‘Your partner is your greatest_____? Fatboy answered, ‘enemy and adversary.’ “I’ve failed to understand how people who once confessed love for one another can one day turn against each other to become their worst enemy. I still don’t know why marriage brings out the worst, especially after it collapses.”
Sherry, a caller on the show, said her marriage partner has to be her greatest critic. “I expect them to be my best friend, critic, and supporter. Constructive criticism should be with love,” she said.
The Fatboy show is hosted by James Onen aka Fatboy, Olive, and Sarah every weekday from 6 am to 10 am on RX Radio.