Without any clear shortcut to a successful relationship, many partners struggle to keep their bond strong, especially after years of being together. Speaking about this, The Fatboy Show host Lesham Kenogo has presented one of the approaches that can maintain a lasting relationship.
She made the statements in reference to a life coach she came across that gave tips of what he named a ‘Four Hour Relationship’ as a means to maintain a functional relationship.
“This man says that if partners have 168 hours in a week, you should at least spend 4 of them trying to keep your relationship in check. He suggested how couples need to intentionally set time aside for their relationship because many partners keep postponing time together such that before they know it, they have spent up to a month without meaningfully interacting with each other,” she said.
She made reference to the CEO of Netflix, Reed Hastings, who says that no matter how fixed his work schedule is on Tuesdays, he makes sure to leave work by 5pm to dedicate time to his wife and their marriage.
However, Fatboy,the show’s co-host, wondered why he would have to spare another 4 hours with his partner when he spends 8 with them during the night.
Lesham responded, “But that is not active intentional time. This was actually what the coach referred to as that most partners spend time around but not with each other. Like here, we spend a lot of time in the office around each other but how many times do I talk to you to find out how you're doing? So, with your partner you have to spend time doing those things away from the normal conversations on food and bills.”
Fatboy however, felt that it weighs heavily on the man in the relationship because it usually turns out to be more of his obligation to schedule and plan quality time with his partner.
Joel, Lesham’s boyfriend, hosting as a guest, then told Fatboy that a man may be obliged to put in the extra effort because of the difference in priorities for both genders in a relationship.
“Men tend to be low maintenance and often have few expectations in a relationship. Once I feel satisfied with my sex, food is covered and she’s around, then I am good to go. But with women, it's a whole list to keep track of. It's like that because we are naturally made that way.”
He added, “If you want to maintain the relationship, you just have to treat it as such because if you look at it as a chore, it will become a burden and it will die. So men should trick themselves; if you're having your needs met, then you should give her a good time.”
The Fatboy show is hosted by James Onen aka Fatboy, Olive, Sarah and Lesham every weekday from 6am to 10am on RX Radio.