Mother of 4, Mary Nagadya graduated with a Bachelor’s degree in Information Technology from Uganda Martyrs University and had been working for four years when she decided to switch roles to being a housewife and a stay at home mum.
After giving birth to her first child, Nagadya realised that there was no mother- work balance because she was allotting most of her energy and attention to work.
During an interview with Crystal Newman, The Groove Cafe host on RX Radio, Nagadya recounted that after taking the decision to become a stay at home mum, she was criticised by many people but the need to raise her children under her guide made her stay focused to her cause.
“Most people who know that I quit working ask me if I don't get bored, others ask me whether I wouldn't want to have my own ka money to cater to my personal needs. And I understand that, but these are my kids. I need to make sure that they are well taken care of because even today's helpers are an issue. They just come and your home is like a shelter from their problems,” Nagadya said.
She further added that the judgement she faces for transforming into a stay at home mother now became “background noise” because raising and nurturing her children which are her family are now her top priority.
Just like formal employment, Nagadya admitted that the schedule for being a stay at home mum isn't any different.
“My mornings are still like work, I look at my home as an office because of the time management it requires. I have to wake up at 5 a.m to prepare my eldest child for school, and then I have to make sure that by the time the rest wake up, breakfast is ready and the rest fall through,” she narrated.
Also a food lover and enthusiast, she mentioned that she uses her free time to watch, and try out new cuisines she learns from Food Network. Nagadya encouraged stay at home mums to find something new to learn during their own time such as a skill or language such as French which she took on personally.
“One thing I have to tell people is that you can transition (to being a stay at home mum). Pace it slowly and accept because this is your family, your children and then when they are grown up, and more independent then you can take them to their grandparents,”she added.
Crystal additionally said that it should be a personal choice because it's upon someone to use their rights as they please.
Nagadya hopes to start a bakery next year and probably get engaged in something related to the cooking/ food business.
The Groove Cafe with Crystal Newman airs every Weekday from 4-5pm on RX Radio.
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