James Onen, commonly known as Fatboy, has claimed that most relationships are failing today because people value the wrong things rather than the person in a relationship.
“Instead of appreciating a person for their kindness, intelligence, compassion, thoughtfulness, and spirituality, many people’s interests are; ‘what do they bring to my life? How much do they make? How beautiful is she? How big is her bum?’ And in focusing on these irrelevant things, no wonder your relationships are failing,” said Fatboy.
Fatboy made presumptions following a discussion with Olive Najjuma on the Fatboy Show regarding whether relationships are failing because people are focusing on the benefits of the relationship rather than the relationship itself.
Fatboy posited that if people focused on how they communicate, how they get along, and whether they understand each other, perhaps relationships would last.
Olive Najjuma said that although she recognizes all those values, the benefits make the relationship itself.
“If you’re kind and thoughtful, but cannot feed me, then what are we doing? There has to be a little bit of everything,” she opined.
Fatboy also reasoned that a relationship is defined by the benefits it brings and that without them, there might not be a relationship.
“...because the point of a relationship is, the two parties bring joint resources and value that they can benefit from, and without it, some might say there would be no relationship,” he surmised.
In her contribution, Sheila, a caller on the show believes that relationships should be a give-and-take situation where each partner can provide something for the other in return for something else.
“If a guy is bringing something, you should also be able to give him something. If it’s just a take situation, the other person will eventually get frustrated, and in the end, it won’t work.”
The Fatboy show is hosted by James Onen aka Fatboy, Olive, and Sarah every weekday from 6 am to 10 am on RX Radio.