In some relationships, couples usually have prospects of living together and starting a family. But what happens if one of the partners cant bear children?
Today on The Fatboy Show, while discussing whether infertility should be a deal-breaker in a relationship, James Onen, aka Fatboy, said he would be okay with the idea of living with a partner that is sterile.
“For me, I would be very open to staying with someone who can't conceive because what matters to me is the quality of the relationship. If we get along so well, like similar things, enjoy each other’s company, she makes nice food, is she well behaved, for me those things would weigh in her favor even despite her inability to conceive,” Fatboy said.
He deliberated whether society needs to reconsider its perspective of relationships without children, given how some people are taken as failures if they do not have or cannot bear children.
His co-host Olive Najjuma reasoned that societal marginalization of people without children sometimes propels people to have children they are not ready for.
However, assuming she did not have children and her partner was impotent, she would have to make some complex decisions.
“It would be a deal-breaker because the truth is that I've always wanted to have children since the age of 10. So not being able to because my partner can't make me pregnant would be a stretch. I would need to make a careful decision about whether to stay with him or to go,” she said.
However, with the evolution of science and the availability of IVF, surrogacy, and adoption, Olive says that if couples are ready for it, they could take either of the options.
She also encouraged couples to get themselves checked to find out if they can both bear children to avoid regrets after tying the knot.
The Fatboy show is hosted by James Onen aka Fatboy, Olive, and Sarah every weekday from 6 am to 10 am on RX Radio.