While talking about the pressure imposed by family on members that are unmarried, RX Radio Presenter James Onen alias Fatboy has advised singles to be cognizant of whom they decide to have children with.
According to Fatboy, some people get into marriage for the romantic excitement they feel at the beginning without paying heed to important details that come with the institution such as being from different ethnic backgrounds and the effect it will have on their children should they choose to have any.
“I tell this to people who are planning on having children with people of other races. You might think that you're defying norms and that it’s romantic, but have you stopped to think about what your child could have to deal with?” he asked.
He went on, “If you have a child with a white person, the child is going to struggle to fit in, because when they travel abroad and associate with their Caucasian relatives, they will be considered black; and in their black parents country, they will then be called white. So, they end up being aliens in every society and that can cause them to have psychological issues.”
He opined that this might be the motivation for civil rights activists in Western Europe where muit-racial persons such as Colin Kaepernick and Shaun King barely have a shade of black in their skin complexions but might be fighting for black people’s rights just to gain a sense of identity.
On an ethnic level, he said that marrying from a different tribe has become normal with the increased blending of cultures. However, he mentioned that the children might face the same identity crisis like bi-racial children, with the confusion brought about by which language they are to speak and their true heritage.
“It's inevitable that we will have more inter-tribal and inter-racial marriages but any parent who gets in the situation has to consider it their responsibility to make sure their child gets a sense of belonging, otherwise you will end up with confused children who don't know where they belong,” he advised.
Lesham, his Co-host, said she appreciated the mind changing and eye-opening advice given by Fatboy and said that though she believes in the 21st century trend, she also realized how it could be psychologically traumatizing to children.
The Fatboy show is hosted by James Onen aka Fatboy, Olive, Sarah and Lesham every weekday from 6am to 10am on RX Radio.